From friendship then it's to a few dates, after a few dates then eventually you're dating, and obviously in this dating you'll start introducing each other to the other closest people in your lifes which can include your parents too, this is how relationships are normally formed nowadays but what comes after the introduction and how do you react to this? Well that's what we gonna talk abaut today in this post. And before anything please i want you guys to know that I'm not an expect in relationships and i just wanna share my point of view here.
Well before anything let us first define the term dating, how do you understand the term dating? Leave your answer in the comments section well here is how i understand the term dating, dating is when two or more people are romantically involved, i know the word 'more' might confuse you but hey in this centuries it's quite normal for three or more people to be dating knowingly; which the correct term they call 'Threesome" or something close to that. To simplify this the are two types of dating just like contracts which namely are exclusive and non-exclusive. Exclusive dating means only two people are involved, romantically and they don't get intimate or flirt with other people even on social media, whereas non-exclusive is the opposite the trick abaut non-exclusive is that both the partners can know abaut the other people involved, when they just want to hook-up and give into their attraction desires without any future plans/expectations. Between me and you i will never advise a person to date non-exclusively as it has major serious consequences can even cause you to go insane (mental illness). Now let's look at the steps in dating, when i say dating i mean exclusive dating as non-exclusive is more like 'Friends with benefit' which we'll talk of some other times for now let's focus on exclusive dating. Let's look at the stages, of the one's i know off and find the biggest of all as it's the reason for this post anyway.
STAGES IN DATING
1.Attraction -Obviously before anything else you need to be attracted to one another and when you are you'll start hanging around more often which can lead you into a healthy relationship, and recently you are used of each other and if you think it's working you'll move to the next stage, some relationships end here when they realize their likes are totally different and have no interest in learning to, for those who learn and accept each other they move to the next stage
2.Trust
-This can also be a big step as it means you need to introduce and be introduced to each others family, inorder to be hundred percent sure that you are really the only one in your partners life, therefore trust is built here, most relationships end here as their partners tend to findout that the are already in other relationship or their partners parents don't approve of their relationship at all
3.Intimacy
-If you make it out of Trust stage then it's normal to get intimate now, that's with today's generation for others can even wait until after marriage. But for those who option intimacy in this stage are very right too as atleast your partners family (people close to your partner) know of you and if in the case that she/he just never introduced the other person to his/her family then this should be a bonus for you as it means he/she is more serious with you, just to be extra careful always use protection and if possible get tested for std's or sti's before sex. (I know most of relationships start with this stage or this can be their second step but we are talking abaut serious dating here)
4. Dissapointmet -This stage is when one partner or both partners is/are unfaithful, yes the relationship can only move from this stage if the unfaithful partner confeses and with certainty that they don't love the person they cheated with, as if they do then they have to start a new relationship with their new lover, while if they apologise and regret what they did then possibility to move to the next stage. (I would be lying if i say it's easy to move from this stage, as I myself never made it out of here, i told you guys in my other post abaut my other past relationship i never made it out of here, But I've witnessed people really close to me move their relationship from this stage, fight for what you love if it's worth it) NB: Not guaranteed that dissapointmet comes this stage, sometimes it comes at the last stage
5.Engagement
-This is the biggest step of all (the reason for the post), Marriage? As engagement comes with marriage i believe this stage can come for as far as four to six years and as short as two years, with todays world it can even be as quick as a year (now anything shorter than this ranges is called 'Flash Marriage' which I'll talk abaut in days or weeks to come), At this stage everyone seems to be surely ready for marriage that's why after the fourth stage you should be ready for this stage as it's an obvious follow-up. After marriage I'm sure you can now move in or if you have already move in together then it's time to plan your family, children for example.
(Now you know what comes after each stage, i hope you'll be surely ready by then) If you think i forgot something or my stages are wrong you're free to comment your own opnions, just don't go in the comments to judge me as I'll aggressively delete your comment thank you.
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