Okay first of all i wanna apologise for ditching you guys, it's nearly a week now, I've noticed threats on our forum of people wanting to ditch the blog claiming that i give so much excuses and their views aren't attended to, but hey I'm human too and need rest.
Have you heard of the term 'Friends With Benefits?' Are you in such a relationship? Do you want to be in such a relationship? Do you want to understand this term? I have all your answers today. I always use to receive that offer from my school mates but gladly refused since it has no bennefit for me. Today i was reminded of my cousin who was and still is involved in this kind of relationship, according to her experience it's the best relationship compared to others, i don't agre with her view but quite support her decision as it has made her happy which is the only thing i care abaut as long as she's happy I'm down, it's her right after all. Today I've decided to uncover some truth and get into details abaut it, just before you think of getting into one, and how to manage it for those already in it.
[What the Friends with benefits really mean]
-It simply means you can be friends with the person, but at times get intimate to please each other even knowing that they got their partners. Friends with benefit is more like nonexclusive dating the only difference is that you are not dating but friends. This is quite dramatic as litterally you can watch being romantic with his/her spouse without giving away any jealousy hint, but when it's just the two of you, you can do anything that couples do so crazy right? This relationships are formed usually incase of both two people already have their partner but find their friend sexual attractive, or when one wants to benefit through financial support while the other through sex and in other cases it is said to strengthen the friendship.Most people like my cousin consider it good and something is good only when the is benefit into it, let's look at the benefits of this relationship.
BENEFITS
1.Reduces Violence
-Since this relationship is usually formed between friends and it's unlikely that your friend can abuse you, so violence is rarely plus he/she isn't boyfriend /girlfriend don't have so much power
2.Less Arguments
-You guys aren't in arelationship, you don't have the right to get jealous as it's the most cause of relationship arguements, here it's a whole new vibe
3.Free from Stress
-Being in a relationship alone is stressy, your partner needs to know where you are 24/7, but here it's a whole different story when you say you are busy, the will be no questioning from your special friend
4.You are Free
-The benefits of this relationship is thougjt of being free, no controls from your special friend, late nights are a bonus
5.No Pressure On Having Kids
-We all know in relationships always man want to trap you with a child but here it's your friend, kids for what?
{My cousin just love this relationship for the freedom it gives her}
But as usual, the is some bad in anything good, let's look at the consequences of this relationship
0--> CONSEQUENCES
1.Risk of falling inlove
-The first condition here is not to fall inlove, if you do that's your problem as your special friend might have someone he/she loves, so if you do you'll suffer alone
2.Jealousy
-You might start getting jealous for your friends girlfriend/boyfriend which can cause might even lead you into committing crimes, can go to an extend of committing suicide thus lose your ahead life
3.Causes Depression
-When your love develops and the rules says if you fall inlove it's your problem, it can mentally hurt you until you end up depressed
4.Against Against Some Religious
-Getting inimate with your friend is considered a taboo (A SIN)
5.Causes Financial Crises
-When you fall into depression there's so much psychological therapy needed in the process you pay more, and when you pay more, you might even end up in debt or with no money at all
I hope this helps, I've noticed you guys don't judge me that much, thank you! Bye.
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